Be honest and straightforward with your partner – before things get hot and
heavy. Find a time to talk privately. Know what you want to say before you sit down to talk. You could start by telling your
honey how you feel about your relationship, maybe discuss the things you like about your partner and the two of you together.
This will help your partner to know that your decision to steer clear of sex isn’t a rejection. It’s an important
personal choice.
Then explain why you want to wait to have sex. You don’t need to defend your
decision, just share your feelings so your partner understands why a sexual relationship isn’t right for you right now.
You should also know your sexual boundaries. Is kissing OK, but other touching isn't? How far are you willing to go
sexually? Set limits.
If you two are together because you're totally into each other, then letting
your partner know how you feel should only bring you closer (if it doesn't, then you have to wonder how good the relationship
was to begin with). Whatever you do, never give up what you think is right for the sake of a relationship.
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